Teen Suicide Prevention: How Parents Can Support Their Teen’s Mental Health
Teen suicide is a heartbreaking reality for families. September’s Suicide Prevention Awareness Month reminds us to talk openly about teen suicide prevention. As parents, caregivers, and community members, we play a crucial role in recognizing warning signs and supporting teens who are struggling.
In the following sections, I’ll cover how to recognize the warning signs of suicidal ideation in teens, how to talk to your teenager if you are concerned, and where to seek help.
Understanding Teen Suicide
Suicide is the second leading cause of death among teens in the United States. While the reasons are complex, many factors can contribute: academic stress, bullying, social media pressure, identity struggles, family conflict, drug and alcohol use, and mental health conditions such as depression and anxiety.
Acknowledging that suicide can affect any teen is the first step toward prevention.
Warning Signs of Suicidal Ideation in Teens
Every teenager is different, but there are common warning signs that may indicate a teen is thinking about suicide:
Talking or writing about death, dying, or suicide
Withdrawing from friends and activities they used to enjoy
Extreme mood swings (sudden sadness, anger, or calmness after distress)
Giving away possessions or saying goodbye to loved ones
Changes in sleep or eating patterns
A drop in grades or loss of interest in school
Risk-taking behaviors (reckless driving, substance use, self-harm)
Apathy
If you notice any of these signs, it is important to take them seriously.
How to Talk to Your Teen if You Are Concerned
Many parents worry that bringing up suicide will “put the idea in their head.” Research shows the opposite, and that asking directly can reduce the risk and simultaneously open a path for help.
Start gently. Choose a quiet time and say what you have noticed: “I’ve noticed that you’ve been really down lately, and I’m worried about you.”
Ask directly. “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” It may feel uncomfortable, but it shows your teen you are not afraid to hear the truth.
Listen without judgment. Let them talk without rushing to “fix” or minimize what they are feeling.
Offer support. Remind them you love them, and you will find help together.
What Not to Do When Talking to Your Teen
When emotions are high, it is natural to want your teen to “snap out of it,” but some responses unintentionally cause more harm. Avoid:
Minimizing their feelings. Saying things like “It’s not that bad” or “You’ll get over it” can make a teen feel unseen and dismissed.
Using guilt. Avoid statements such as “Do you know what this would do to our family?” which may increase their shame.
Overreacting with anger or panic. While fear is understandable, responding with punishment or extreme alarm shuts down communication.
Keeping it a secret. If your teen confides in you about suicidal thoughts, it is essential to reach out for professional help.
Instead, stay calm, listen, and let your teen know you take their feelings seriously.
Supporting Your Teen’s Mental Health
Beyond crisis moments, building a strong foundation of support helps prevent suicide:
Stay connected. Make time to check in daily, even in small ways.
Encourage healthy coping. Exercise, time in nature, art, and journaling help release stress.
Model openness. Be honest about your own challenges and how you manage them.
Seek professional help. A therapist can provide tools and a safe space for your teen to work through painful emotions.
When to Seek Immediate Help
If your teen is talking about suicide, has a plan, or you believe they are in immediate danger, do not wait. Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.
You can also contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, which is available 24/7 by calling or texting 988.
Talking about suicide with teens can feel overwhelming, but silence carries a greater risk. Your willingness to notice warning signs, start honest conversations, and seek help can make a life-saving difference. As a parent, your actions and support are powerful tools in protecting your child’s future.
If you are concerned about your teen, reach out today—contact a mental health professional or call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline for support. Therapy can provide guidance, tools, and a safe place for both you and your teen.
